(Keep in mind that my Mom has my best interests in mind and means the best. So, no Mom bashing. At all.)
I'm just wondering, how much truth is there in her (slightly exaggerated) statement?
Think about it this way... why shouldn't I only go out with guys who really really really want to go out with me?
Of COURSE I should go out with those guys. I'm just not sure how to tell them apart from the guys who only kind of want to go out with me.
So, what's the deal non-single guys? How did you make your lady know that you really wanted to ask her out and date her. How did you "beg"? Or, did you actually beg? Cuz, that's a story I'd like to hear!
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hmmm, not that I am a single guy, mind you...but I had to ask Michael out to start the ball rolling(so to speak). It is the only time I actually asked a guy out. Six years later, seems to have worked out.
It's hard for me to get around the word "Beg" in this scenario. It scares me. Like "stalker" scares me.
Keep in mind, the guys "who only kind of want to go out" with you can eventually come around to displaying the same passion as "the begger" has. And it's less creepy then.
I'm no help.
I'm anxiously awaiting the responses to this one;>
nicely done dilling!
McGone, are you telling me stalking's not ok? In that case, you should probably close your curtains and, uh, maybe take a new bus to work or something. ; )
Me too Woo-Woo!
McGone is right. Begging = bad and I doubt that is the type of guy you really want to be with.
Someone posted a comment here awhile back that normal guys are scared too and it's true. Rejection sucks, so guys aren't going to risk it unless they get some signs (any sign) ahead of time that the women is interested. So...a normal guy may really, really want to go out with you but he isn't going to beg you.
Making begging a requisite is not fair nor a particularily good way to start a relationship...but I'm pretty sure I'm not telling you anything you already didn't know.
Hey, Merry Christmas!
All right, some stalking's ok, I guess.
I don't know about begging but I found being rude really really helps. Does that help? At all?
And that guy in the picture is HOT!
Cocoa: No, I'm not sure I want begging to start the relationship. Unless, maybe it's someone like Brad Bitt who's begging me to believe he just wants to cuddle and throw money at me in a loving sort of way. Merry Christmas to you too you crazy no gogo you! ; )
McGone: Whew. I can take my telephoto lens back out then? heh
Tod: Being rude eh? Hmmm, I'll see what I can muster! Oh, and that guy? I actually thought he was totally intimidating! hee hee
Also not a single guy here, but my boyfriend has a method he swears by. I was mildly annoyed when I heard about this because it TOTALLY worked on me and I had no clue it was a "method" until he started teaching his single best friend to use it.
Anyway, Chris would NEVER beg, most guys in fact would probably not think it's manly to act desperate for a date with someone so I find they tend to cover up their true feelings at the beginning. It takes awhile to crack them!
Chris essentially played hard to get. He did ask me out, but it took him quite awhile to do so. On our first date, we played pool. His "method" is to make a bet on the outcome of the game, winner gets a massage or something that's not TOO sexy but lets the girl know he's interested. Then (the bastard!) he let me win the pool game. Grrrrr, and I thought I beat him fair and square... anyway so I got a shoulder massage on date #2. See how he managed to guarantee himself a date #2 out of this deal? He also is one of those guys who swears by the "don't call the next day" rule. He waits a minimum of 5 days after the first date to call. Gah, did that ever drive me nuts waiting. But I wasn't about ot cave and call him, and we are still together 3 years later, so I have to give him reluctant kudos.
err...that's what I liked about him!
knowing mcgone personally, he likes to be stalked! Don't let him tell you differently.
I am not sure exactly how my wife and I got to the "we are dating" phase, but we met in school, and actually each had mates at the time. We just hung out a lot anf eventually ended up dating exclusively. But as a guy, we are very guarded as to when to tell a girl "hey, I like you" we tend to pick on them a lot, like in 6th grade, and hope they get the mixed signals.
Wendy didn't want to go out with me. Her "story" is that I was convenient because she happened to be in town at the same time that I offered to meet for a cup of tea.
She then told everybody I wasn't "her type", and only agreed to meet again because she happened to be in town.
Her co-workers eventually ordered her to see me again because she hadn't shut up about me :)
Wendy says I succeeded because I was "persistant". That makes me feel SO great :)
my boyfriend let me know he really wanted to date me by saying, "i need you... real bad," before he asked me out officially. and during the time we were "talking" - we talked every day for hours, and it was just obvious to me.
i don't think a guy should/will always beg, even if he really likes you. some people are too shy to do that, don't want to appear cocky or pushy, or want to make sure the feeling is reciprocated by *YOU* before pursuing it further & further.
if someone showed interest in me, and i was interested in them, i'd give it a chance at least. :) then again - i'm an optimist and like trying new things and such.
Laura: So both of you were playing hard to get? Tee hee! I do like the idea of a shoulder rub though, but my date would probably have to let me win too! ; )
right on Tod! lol
slinger: personally, I don't get the mixed signals. they just confuse me.
I found grade 6 or 7 easier when someone would tell someone to ask someone to ask me if I liked so and so and then I'd say yes and then he'd let me wear his jacket or sweater and maybe we'd hold hands.
ahhhhh, so easy!
I know a lot of great couples who knew each other in school. Lucky you two : )
Jonathan, Wendy's "story" sounds a lot like the way my Mom talks about my Dad and they've been married over 40 years!
Awesome!
It's a good thing she kept on happening to be in town, eh? ; )
Ryan, how are you sure she's showing interest? What if she's a shy gal like, oh, say, me and she's trying to show interest but isn't sure if it's coming across as interest, politeness or what?
I still maintain we need glowing auras of interest! So. Much. Easier!
lol
I'm with you Kalen, what with the optimism and giving things a try and whatnot!
It must be so tricky for guys to figure it all out what with "modern" times and traditions and not wanting to be embarassed and... oh my!
I think generally, I'm pretty good at reading people and knowing when a guy's interested. I *think* I am, anyway!
I'd say "I need you" is a pretty clear indication, eh? : )
Oh, and Hi! Thanks for commenting, welcome! I love new comments :D
You could try those mittens on a string that goes through the arms of your coat? When I really liked a girl in junior school I used to pull a mitten until the other one shot up her sleeve. Then I'd drag her around till she fell over.
It worked for us. Maybe you could give it a try :)
Tod, that is so totally adorable I think I'm going to fall over!
Tod, that was hilarious. Made me almost spit out my drink!
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