Guy-speak is very complicated and does not adhere to strict rules either. One day, X might mean something, and then the following day the same X might mean something completely different. Knowing this avoids frustration and also underlies the need for very clear and explicit speech. :)
In my dialect of "guy speak" it means I will finish what I'm doing by seven if all goes well and then spend a least an hour trying to remember what it was I was supposed to do next. This is especially true if you called me while I was already in the middle of whatever I was going to finish by seven since you only had about half my attention anyway.
Next time wait until 7:30 or so and call me back; sweetly say something like "Remember me? Im the gorgeous spy you were supposed to call. I put off saving a small country waiting for your call." If all went well and I actually did finish on time I will be grateful that you saved me from an evening of nagging doubt. If all didn't go well I need a break anyway.
Maybe I should do an advice column. We could call it Advice From A Clueless Old Fart.
It usually means that anytime after seven, if he chooses to, and is not too busy doing guy stuff, he may or may not call you before seven the next day.
If I could speak guy speak I would not have a blog called thoughts of a single girl. I have no idea what lurks in the hearts (and pea brains) of men. Oh this bitter Betty needs a night out.
Alexandra, why no rules? Need rules to help explain complicatedness! I'm such a black and white person the complete lack of sense drives me bonkers! So you mean I should say "So you'll call at seven?" sigh.
Tom, Why? Why? Why? Why can't it just mean.... sigh. Actually, I found your whole "will finish what I'm doing by seven if all goes well and then spend a least an hour trying to remember what it was I was supposed to do next." hilarious because I can picture a lotta guys doing that whereas I can picture most girls going "hmm, well it's 6:30 and I told so and so I'd be done at 7 so I should probably make sure I call just before seven." Or something. Yeah, I probably just should have called at 7:30 and said "hey, it's me, hot stuff, what's up?" but that just seems lame and by the time it was 8 I was just pissed so no way was I could to call him.... I've got a real problem with people who don't follow through with what they say they're going to do. I think it's incredibly disrespectful. And lame. ; ) But yeah, go ahead with the advice column!
Leah, : )
Slinger, y'all are crazy. How do men ever manage to convince a woman to marry them?
TSG, fair fair point. Now go get yourself a night out! ; )
Princess CBH, we may be confusing, but so the freak are they! It's just that most of us admit to being confusing and guys tend to say "oh, we always just say it the way it is"... er.... reallllly?
Is this like girl-speak, where 7:00 means the time you should be ready for, and waiting.
The fact that the girl is still agonizing over which pair of shoes to wear, and will not get out of the bedroom for another half an hour is besides the point.
I completely see where you might think that the comment might result in a call around 7, but like Tom said, focus on more than one task is quite difficult for those guys, so it might be better to assume that, "I'll be done by seven," really means that you should call back after seven to have the real conversation that he might remember;>
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Guy-speak is very complicated and does not adhere to strict rules either. One day, X might mean something, and then the following day the same X might mean something completely different.
Knowing this avoids frustration and also underlies the need for very clear and explicit speech. :)
Regrettably it could mean almost anything.
In my dialect of "guy speak" it means I will finish what I'm doing by seven if all goes well and then spend a least an hour trying to remember what it was I was supposed to do next. This is especially true if you called me while I was already in the middle of whatever I was going to finish by seven since you only had about half my attention anyway.
Next time wait until 7:30 or so and call me back; sweetly say something like "Remember me? Im the gorgeous spy you were supposed to call. I put off saving a small country waiting for your call." If all went well and I actually did finish on time I will be grateful that you saved me from an evening of nagging doubt. If all didn't go well I need a break anyway.
Maybe I should do an advice column. We could call it Advice From A Clueless Old Fart.
hahahaah
It usually means that anytime after seven, if he chooses to, and is not too busy doing guy stuff, he may or may not call you before seven the next day.
If I could speak guy speak I would not have a blog called thoughts of a single girl. I have no idea what lurks in the hearts (and pea brains) of men.
Oh this bitter Betty needs a night out.
guy speak is never what they say. i hate it. and they say WE'RE confusing.
Alexandra, why no rules? Need rules to help explain complicatedness! I'm such a black and white person the complete lack of sense drives me bonkers!
So you mean I should say "So you'll call at seven?" sigh.
Tom,
Why? Why? Why? Why can't it just mean.... sigh.
Actually, I found your whole "will finish what I'm doing by seven if all goes well and then spend a least an hour trying to remember what it was I was supposed to do next." hilarious because I can picture a lotta guys doing that whereas I can picture most girls going "hmm, well it's 6:30 and I told so and so I'd be done at 7 so I should probably make sure I call just before seven." Or something.
Yeah, I probably just should have called at 7:30 and said "hey, it's me, hot stuff, what's up?" but that just seems lame and by the time it was 8 I was just pissed so no way was I could to call him....
I've got a real problem with people who don't follow through with what they say they're going to do. I think it's incredibly disrespectful. And lame. ; )
But yeah, go ahead with the advice column!
Leah, : )
Slinger, y'all are crazy. How do men ever manage to convince a woman to marry them?
TSG, fair fair point. Now go get yourself a night out! ; )
Princess CBH, we may be confusing, but so the freak are they! It's just that most of us admit to being confusing and guys tend to say "oh, we always just say it the way it is"... er.... reallllly?
Heh.
Is this like girl-speak, where 7:00 means the time you should be ready for, and waiting.
The fact that the girl is still agonizing over which pair of shoes to wear, and will not get out of the bedroom for another half an hour is besides the point.
Well, if I knew any girls who were like that, I'd be able to help you answer that mysterious question! : )
I completely see where you might think that the comment might result in a call around 7, but like Tom said, focus on more than one task is quite difficult for those guys, so it might be better to assume that, "I'll be done by seven," really means that you should call back after seven to have the real conversation that he might remember;>
Siiiiiiigh.
; )
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