When do you start thinking about that person as your significant other? When do you start talking to your friends about your boy/girlfriend?
Is there a time line? Is there an event? Is it different each time?
So. Those of you with boyfriends or girlfriends. When did you do it? When did they become that? And why?
Don't you think it would be easier if we could exchange Letterman jackets or class rings.
Wait. Do people still do that and I just don't know?
16 comments:
David Letterman Jackets? Cuz I want one of those!
I told him that we were together because I hate that iffy, undefined stage. I didn't ask, I just flat out told him we were together. It was pretty blunt and unsubtle and he still likes to bug me about it, but hey, we didn't have to play any games and he stuck around, so it couldn't have been that bad, and it worked as planned!
That exchanging of rings or jackets or something would be so much easier.
I found that we were spending most free nights together. I didn't have time to see other guys and stopped even wanting to try to meet other guys. After blowing off and cancelling meetings and dates with other potential boyfriends, I realized this guy was my boyfriend. Exchanging of Christmas gifts (about a month into dating) made me think he thought of me as his girlfriend.
We were totally in a "we're just two friends havin' fun"-mode for 6 months. At one point we went ice-skating together and before that, I always thought I was a kickass skater. But when his skates touched the ice I was in awe; he was sooo good! So smooth (in a good way;-) It was the first time I'd let him impress me and we're bf/gf ever since. Never said it outloud but we both knew it.
It is definitely different everytime, but everytime there is a conversation to make it official (or at least in my life that has been true).
I don't have a boyfriend but I am still commenting ... hope you don't mind.
Dilling: I'm in!
Laura: Nicely done!! : )
Celebrate Woo Woo: Wouldn't it be easier? Although, I suppose the whole Christmas gift thing must have been helpful too.
Catlin: That's SO CUTE! ( I'm seriously all "awwwww" over here )
The Single Girl: Of course I don't mind! The more comments the merrier. Non-single folks aren't the only ones who have opinions about boyfriends, right? ; ) Now I'm trying to think.. I think I usually, at some point, have an awkward conversation about "um, so.. are you, like, um, do you think, uh, well, am I your girlfriend?" heh.
I don't think the conversation always has to be awkward. Perhaps I've just had the good fortune to encounter those moments that can be incredibly awkward and survived to go on. :) I think many times the awkwardness that can whisper around the fringes is more a reflection of ones own fears and concerns. Sometimes, usually just before I completely fall on my face, I like to think that I've developed the ability to roll through awkwardness. Uh oh.. that probably means I'm gonna get gut shot pretty soon. :) Oh well... let the dance continue.. painful and wonderful and crazy and beautiful. Damn.
Lol. The ability to roll through awkwardness is totally important Jordan, but that's also true that those conversations don't always have to be awkward. Maybe they have been for me because I have a tendency to rush into things because I'm not great with grey fuzzy unknowns. : )
But yes, let the dance continue!
I dislike the uncertain vagueness and often take a two pronged approach. Quick, fast, and out. Just like in the movies when they go to rescue hostages or something :) Upfront question ala "so what's going on here" which present the option for discussion and broaches the whole subject. Then if it's really not working or moving along (ie the other person doesn't want to go there) then quickly bring in obvious silly distractor like.. "Hey gee.. that's a neat tree. I like trees. What do you think about trees? " Of course you can replace tree with any really obvious thing.. ie tall buidling, construction crane, emu. Take your pick. :)
OK. I've got it.
"So, what's going on here?"
(insert unwanted answer here)
"Well, yeah, but isn't that a nice looking cloud? And how about those Canucks, eh?"
: )
Wow. You're a pro. Referencing the weather and sports. I bow before your obvious skills. ;)
I first realised that G and I were "together" when a girl that had spent weeks trying to date him accosted me in a nightclub and accused me of "turning" him. LOL!
Thanks Jordan! I have practice avoiding those stunningly awkward situations that I'm always getting myself into! heh : )
Tod: nice!
heheheh
My ex decided he was my boyfriend (after about 6 months of spending pretty much every night together) when he found out another guy was interested in me. lol
Ooooh! Awesome, Yvonne! lol ; )
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