Saturday, 24 July 2010

To All My Well-Meaning Friends, Acquaintances, Relatives, and The Like

Dear Folks,

I hereby promise and declare that when I *do* have a boyfriend and/or am seeing someone and/or have gotten married that it will be the first thing I tell you.

I'll tell you about him after I give you a big hug, or I'll tell you about him as soon as you ask me "How are things?", or I'll tell you about him when I send out the wedding invitations but until then, please stop asking me if I'm seeing anyone or if I've met anyone, or if I've found Mr. Right.

Because when you ask, it puts me in the awkward position of having to smile and make some sort of happy comment about the fact that no, I'm still single or no, I'm single again or whatever it is that I have to say to make it known that while I'm not in a relationship it's really ok and I know we haven't seen each other in years, but it's still ok.

So everyone, I promise to let you know when I'm in a relationship and/or seeing someone and/or getting married so you don't have to ask.

It'll be better that way.



Blogger FigJam said...

Amen to that! :)

Saturday, July 24, 2010 8:07:00 am  
Blogger Brad said...

So, How are things?

Saturday, July 24, 2010 8:07:00 am  
Blogger Victoria said...

Indeed FigJam ;)

Oh, fine Brad! Thanks for asking (big grin plastered on face) Yeah, good! And you?

Saturday, July 24, 2010 10:37:00 am  
Blogger Being Samiantha said...


In addition to asking if we've met anyone, stop asking us WHY we're STILL single, like its a diease or something.

I've learned when people intrude and ask why I'm single or havent met anyone. I answer them with stupid replies.

"I havent met anyone cos I'm a hermit and am scared of men"

Why am I still single? When are you going to have children?


Saturday, July 24, 2010 10:45:00 am  
Blogger Victoria said...

OOoh, hey, that's a good point! I guess the "non-single" equivalent to that annoying question is 1. When are you two getting married. Followed by 2. So, when are you to having kids? And then 3. Are you going to have another kid soon?


I suppose I could try the stupid reply thing too: Why am I single? Because my restraining order says I have to be.

Saturday, July 24, 2010 11:17:00 am  
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Saturday, July 24, 2010 11:44:00 am  
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Thanks, and thanks for the link

Saturday, July 24, 2010 11:51:00 am  
Anonymous Dominic said...

So.. ARE you seeing anyone yet? :)

I'm kinda lucky in that arena these days - everyone assumes my housemate & I are an item so don't bother with the stupid questions..

Sunday, July 25, 2010 2:08:00 pm  
Blogger Victoria said...

Nope! ;)

How's it going with you and your roomie then? heh

Sunday, July 25, 2010 2:18:00 pm  
Blogger Single and Picky said...

Amen, to that and Being Samiantha said about it being treated like a disease. My boss even joked about my biological clock when I was discussing my future with the company. Good Lord, you don't think I am not aware? It is what it is.

Sunday, July 25, 2010 4:12:00 pm  
Blogger Victoria said...

Maybe once people get married and/or are male or have been married forever, they forget what it feels like to be single. And that we know we're single?

Sunday, July 25, 2010 7:49:00 pm  
Blogger DEC said...

Couldn't agree more... once I went back to my hometown and had a get together with my girl friends (all married/ engaged/ in a relationship) and one of those "friends" asked me if I've already given up getting married (for God's sake, I'm 28!).
The following day I met a couple of other "in a relationship" girl friends and in the middle of dinner one of them asked me if I was dating anyone... don't you know that, being among girls that I haven't seen in a while, that would not be the first thing I would tell about my new life abroad??? pfffff....


Monday, July 26, 2010 12:18:00 am  
Blogger Victoria said...

Pffff indeed Anne ;)

Monday, July 26, 2010 12:34:00 am  
Blogger Mazrian said...

I know exactly how you feel... I am so over family and friends asking me if I am seeing anyone with that look on their face as though I am some alien freakazoid from another planet because I am 29 and don't have a boyfriend! (I just discovered your blog by the way and love it - keep up the good work!)

Monday, July 26, 2010 3:50:00 am  
Anonymous Jonathan said...

I remember what it felt like. Being single. I remember yearning after what other people seemed to have. I remember the feeling of being left out sometimes.

Of course now the reverse is true - I see single people out having fun, doing what they want, and I miss it.

We always think the grass is greener :)

Monday, July 26, 2010 4:49:00 am  
Anonymous Amy said...

Ooof, that must get annoying. I had a neighbour who spent years asking me and my mother if I was "courting" yet. She even came to where I worked and whilst I served her asked me then in front of customers! I wouldn't have minded but she started when I was only 14 and still made me feel like a freak for being happily single.

Now I'm coupled up she asks when we're getting married. She's more determined to see me matched up than me own mother.

Monday, July 26, 2010 5:47:00 am  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

It doesn't end when you're married...I thought I had escaped those quesitons but now they're even more intrusive. "So...thinking about a family?!?" "Are you going ot be buying a place in the burbs?!"

How about my bank account and my uterus are topics off limits. People are just making conversation I get it, but it's so annoying!!!

Monday, July 26, 2010 1:29:00 pm  
Blogger Victoria said...

Oooh, alien freakazoid! I know that feeling Mazrian :)

Grass sure does always seem greener,Jonathan. ;)

Wow, Amy, sounds like that neighbour can't wait to push you into all sorts of fun things! Hee.

Anonymous, I know what you mean, I do try to tell myself that they're just making conversation, but I think you're on to something. We should make t-shirts that say "My bank account and my uterus are topics off limits." And then on the back it could say "But why don't we talk about yours?"

Monday, July 26, 2010 4:16:00 pm  
Anonymous Michael said...

Oh, sweetie, you're probably gay and just don't want to admit it!

But I'm not judging. ;)

Be well,

Tuesday, July 27, 2010 9:51:00 am  
Blogger Victoria said...

Hmmm, probably not something you'd want to say in real life Michael.

Tuesday, July 27, 2010 11:14:00 am  
Anonymous narami said...

sharing this in my facebook wall could save me from cutting someone. then again, I kind of like the prospect of being violent with annoying people.

Tuesday, July 27, 2010 7:40:00 pm  
Blogger Victoria said...

Ahhhhhahah hahahaha ha!

Tuesday, July 27, 2010 7:48:00 pm  

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