I am, as we know, overly sensitive to not wanting to upset people. Often, especially strangers. Which maybe makes it even weirder. Or certainly more frustrating on my end... anyway...
I was buying groceries earlier this week and the person serving me was a young woman. Early twenties maybe. A bigger woman, with glasses and a ponytail. And a name tag that said James.
And I wanted to ask her about her name. Because James is a cool name for a girl and maybe there's a cool story about why she was given it.
But then I thought I shouldn't ask. Because maybe she's in transition and James will be her name. Or maybe... I don't know. Maybe she would have thought I was incredibly rude to ask?
Or, really, maybe she forgot her name tag and just grabbed a random one. Or maybe her name just looks like James and is pronounced some other way or maybe I'd offend James by asking gender related questions.
Argh. And ugh. I just wanted to know what the deal was. But I couldn't think of a way to ask that wouldn't potentially upset or make me seem rude.
It shouldn't be this complicated y'all.
3 comments:
Might the tags at the shop be surnames? Calling people by their surnames is often done over here (England) ... but I think using the name tag of someone else is likely ...
you could hold it as a mystery ...
Cdn Anne in England
As a girl who has a traditional boy's name, I'm a little tired of having people ask me about it...because almost everyone does.
It's not like I had any control over it, it's just a name that was in my mom's family and my parents liked (so no crazy interesting story). I find it really weird when people compliment me on it or tell me it's neat. I smile and nod, but it's just my name.
I suppose it could be Anne, but that's not typically done in this store.
Thanks for the insight Bad.Days! I appreciate hearing that :)
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