Thursday, 25 September 2014

Trying To Breathe...

I have two friends who are thinking of coming to Burning Man next year.

I say "coming" because I'm assuming they'd come with me.  I might be wrong on that, but it's been implied in the conversations.

Which panics me.

(Doesn't take much some days, I know, but still..)

First of all, I love them both dearly and they're both easy going so I'm sure they'd get along, but... they don't know each other... what if they didn't?  One's a long time friend of mine from waaay back in the day and the other is a current co-worker I've known for about five years. 

Second of all, how would we all get down there?  Three of us and all our stuff won't fit in a car.  Would we rent a vehicle of some kind?  Go with Connor in his RV thing? 

Plus, what if they don't like it?  What if we annoy each other?  What if they rely on me?  What if they want me to show them around etc.?  WHAT IF I'M THE EXPERT?  I'M NOT THE EXPERT!!!  I've only gone twice!  Both times I've gone with Connor who knows how to get the rebar into the playa... how to get the rebar out of the playa at the end of the week when it's stuck... knows how much things have to be secured against the wind... what a dust storm can do to a tent.. your eyes... I can't take care of two people who've never been before... who will take care of me if I need it????  AND HOW WILL WE GET ALL OUR BIKES THERE OMG I CAN'T HANDLE IT!!!!

So...yeah... it's stressing me out a bit.

And I'm going to have to let that go...

*Deeeeeeep breath....*

Oh boy.


Army of the Frenetic said...

Relax, you have ~365 days left to plan it!

Unless you end up forgetting to set your alarm clock, end up sleeping 364 days, and wake up to realize the trip's now tomorrow.


*Deeeeeeep breath....*

Victoria said...


(wait... am I a bear?) (Because I wouldn't mind a few days of hibernation right about now) ;)

Jonathan said...

I love this post, because it's exactly how I would react - and then when it comes down to it, I would just get on with it :)

Elliott said...'re no one's tour guide. It is not your responsibility to ensure they have a good time. Just like it was not Connor's responsbility that you have a good time.

They need to experience it themselves so that can take away what moves them...which is likely entirely different from what you get out of going.

It's great if you can point out how things work, but it's their responsbility to ensure they have a good time. Being a good friend sometimes means cutting the cord.

After saying that, I know exactly how you feel. Guilty of that too.

Victoria said...

Thanks J ;)

Thanks Elliott... that's a really good thing to hear and for me to remember. I'm not their tour guide... *and breathe* !

Army of the Frenetic said...

I'm sure you're warm and soft and very cuddly, but I doubt you're covered in coarse fur, weigh in excess of 800 pounds, and maintain a diet of salmon, berries, and honey.

.....Er, right?

Victoria said...