Wednesday, 16 February 2011

Learning Things

When I signed up for the run clinic with S last year, there was a medium-large part of me that was hoping there would be some cute guys there and that that would magically turn into me finding a boyfriend. Because, I mean, really, it's one of the (many) things people tell you when you're single: Get out there! Join a club! Do something you enjoy! That's where the single guys are, that's where you'll meet someone!

So I got out there, joined a club and? There were three guys.

All older and not-single.

But while disappointing it was fine. It was enough to hang out with S and learn to run. I figured that all the single guys were in a different clinic and not learning to run.

So imagine my surprise when I signed up for the learn to run clinic again and found that a couple of guys had also signed up.

There were, it being January the month of resolve, a whole lot more people in this clinic than the last one, but I hadn't expected there to be so many guys. Or, any.

These guys, it seemed, had shown up with their girlfriends, but at least there were some guys there. Somehow, that gave me hope that maybe one day I would, in fact, meet a guy while out doing something.

I ended up running by myself that first week by choice and a friend I'd made at the last clinic checked in on me from time to time and it was good and I didn't have to go outside of my comfort zone and talk to a stranger like I'd been worried about.

The second week there were a ton more sign ups and a lot of them were guys. Crazy. They were coming out of the woodwork apparently.

As our group gathered to start our run, one of the guys ended up beside me and asked if he had missed anything the week before. I smiled and caught him up and he asked if I wanted to be running buddies.

Well sure, I said, weirdly feeling like I was in my comfort zone and not shy, maybe because he was new and I'd been there before.

We chatted for the whole run and it was enjoyable. It was really nice, actually, to talk to a guy and enjoy it.

I mean, yes, I've been on a few dates lately, but I was nervous on them and I wouldn't say I enjoyed them really. I think I ran the whole time with a smile on my face. He was funny, but in an understated way.

I don't know, I just liked something about him and I found myself grinning the next day at the mere fact that I had a) met a nice guy and b)talked to him and c)enjoyed it.

It made me feel prettier somehow.

And it certainly made me feel hopeful.

I know myself well though, and I made myself slow down before I got carried away and I told myself to just wait til the next clinic. Maybe he wouldn't show up. Maybe he would run with someone else. I mean it's not anything anyway, it's just talking to someone. And I'm there to run. Honestly.

He stood next to me again though when we went to run and asked if I wanted to be running partners again.

We remembered each others names, we asked about each others weeks, but people. . . people? I can't get ahead of myself.

So he's a friendly guy.

So what?

I can't start telling myself it's anything more than a guy who likes to make conversation finding someone to make conversation with because when, near the end I dropped back to let the others sprint ahead (hello, avoiding injury and unable to breathe thank you very much because whose silly idea is it to sprint right now I'm a beginner runner you crazy people!) he chatted away quite happily with the run leader and my spirits sank because of course I've already romanticized the situation to the point where I imagine he's looking out for me and waiting for me to catch up so we can laugh about the sprinting together and man. . . why do I do this to myself?

I don't know if he's single. I can't assume he's interested. I can't make talking to someone in a run clinic mean anything more than having someone to talk to when you're in a run clinic.

So, hey, I met someone running, but it's not anything and it's not like I met someone met someone while running. I just met someone.

I just also kind of like him a little.

So far.



Blogger Kas said...

Give it time... He may still work out. Or, he may not. But it will be OK!


Wednesday, February 16, 2011 8:45:00 am  
Blogger Single and Picky said...

Just go with the process - dating is like running - you just put one foot in front of another. Follow whatever the path is that lays out in front of you. You'll be fine. And now you have an excuse to buy a cute running top...

Wednesday, February 16, 2011 10:52:00 am  
Blogger SusieQ6283 said...

I still, for one, would like to offer you a "High FIve" - awesome story!! And keep it realistic..he's a nice guy, flirt, enjoy, have fun and just see what happens!

Wednesday, February 16, 2011 11:51:00 am  
Blogger Victoria said...

Yeah, we'll see how it goes Kas :)

Oooh, good point SnP! I mean about the one foot in front of the other. As for the top? TOO DAMN COLD! ;)

Thanks SusieQ :)

Wednesday, February 16, 2011 4:58:00 pm  
Blogger the one in the back said...

You can certainly ask if he's single next time. If he asks why, you can always dismiss his question. A lady doesn't have to explain her thoughts to anyone. If nothing else, that's a sure fire way of getting his full attention ;)

Have fun!

Wednesday, February 16, 2011 11:44:00 pm  
Blogger Chad said...

Just found your site. I really like your writing personality. I read a couple of your first posts from 2006, too, and they made me laugh. Thanks!

Er. If you want him to ask you out, a verbal hint might be nice -- we guys can be slow on the uptake and insecure. Maybe ask him to coffee -- strong compliment. (Or ask him out to eat a bunch of caramels, like Matt Damon suggests in Good Will Hunting. But no... you don't want to come on too strong. Stick with coffee. Baby steps.)

Thursday, February 17, 2011 12:43:00 am  
Blogger Kas said...

I like the way Chad thinks. I like caramels too. MMmmmmm caramels...



Thursday, February 17, 2011 6:32:00 am  
Blogger Dugout Daisy said...

I think this is a great thing! Even if he does have a gf, if the two of you are getting along so great he might have a nice single friend that he can introduce you to. Nothing bad can come out of this, not the way I see it. Now you have a nice comfortable conversation to look forward to, and itz already upping your confidence level... more confidence equals an irresistable you! This is such a great thing, enjoy every moment of it!
If you want to know if he's single, you can ask him what he enjoys doing when he's not running, he may bring up a gf if you ask.
Just enjoy it! :)

Thursday, February 17, 2011 11:17:00 am  
Blogger Victoria said...

Fair enough ToitB :)

Hey, thanks Chad and welcome! :D
Ok, coffee but not caramels, got it ;)

Mmmmmm, Kas, caramels! Hee hee

That's true Daisy, he might know a friend for me :) And, yes, I'll keep on enjoying it :)

Thursday, February 17, 2011 8:45:00 pm  

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