A fellow sent me a message on the online dating site the other day and in his message he wished me well whether or not I was interested or responded.
I got back to him to thank him and he asked me an awkward but honest question.
Did I find him attractive enough to pursue things?
There's part of me that appreciates his honesty and his being direct enough to ask.
Where it became awkward is that my most honest answer was "not really", but I didn't want to say that.
I didn't want to say that because it's not nice to hear, and I didn't want to say that because pictures aren't always helpful and it's possible that if we met in person I *would* find him attractive.
So I didn't know what to say. Or how to say it.
So I just kind of said "I don't know what to say to that."
Which is honest.
Just maybe not direct.
How *do* you tell someone you don't find them attractive from just seeing their picture?