Wednesday, 19 June 2013
Out Of The Mouths
I broke it to them differently, separately, and so when I was telling my Dad that the guy I'd been seeing moved to Vancouver and then kind of turned into a jerk when we ended things, my Dad said that that must be upsetting and hard. And then he said that I needed to hold men in less esteem.
Which, honestly, when a girlfriend or guy friend says "guys are jerks" you just kind of shrug it off as them trying to be supportive, but lumping all guys into the same category has never seemed fair. But for my Dad to say kind of the same thing? Gave me pause. Do I think too highly of men?
My Mom, when she heard that Jay had not been "nice" around the end of things, comforted me and hugged me and let me cry. She said that it had seemed like he was a nice fellow. I said he had been. She said it seemed like we'd had a ton of fun together. I said we had. One of the things she said was that it seemed like I brought out the best in people. She said my Dad's like that too. But she said that it always seems like I bring out the best in people and so that when they're not with me anymore they turn mean.
I don't know if it's true, but it certainly helped me to think so.