Tuesday, 20 January 2015

The Guy Non Guy

So.... I guess I'd kind of hoped the "I called a new guy last weekend" guy would turn into a thing.  He called me a few days after I called him but I haven't heard from him since.  I sent him a hello email the other day and he got back to me but I guess ... I don't know.. I wanted to realize he was the new love of my life and kind of get going with that?

I know I said I would just let it happen or not happen the way it was going to but man if only it were that easy, right?

Maybe he'll turn out to be the love of my life, maybe not.... maybe he's the next guy I date... maybe not.  Maybe I just get ok with being single... maybe the next great relationship is right around the corner.

But... yeah... if wishes were horses.... and all that jazz.


Jason Langlois said...

If wishes were horses, I'd be shovelling a lot of horse manure every day and wondering why the hell I wished for horses...

"I'm happy in a relationship, but I'm also happy out of one. While I'm sure one of these days I'll be permanently coupled, I'm happily discovering that who I'm with, or not with, doesn't define who I am."

Live up to your About Me ... because you're creative, interesting, talented and wonderful. Be happy with being amazing, and let the rest fall into place.

Elliott said...

I truly believe that it will happen when you're least expecting it. I had pretty much resigned myself to being single for the rest of my life and then my wife walked into my life. I think if you're happy with yourself that happiness is seen by others and who knows what will happen.

Always remember that you're smart, creative, great sense of humour, lots of fun, adverturous, and from the one pic in your profile I have to assume pretty. Those qualities are too good to be ignored.

BTW - mom's surgery was way longer than expected, but the doc is happy with the results. Thank goodness.

Yvonne said...

I suspect when you do finally meet your person, he will be worth the wait. And like Elliot said, likely when you're not looking for/expecting it.
My experience with the online dating sites is that you're dealt with all these varying degrees of misshapen puzzle pieces, and then feel pressured to try and cram them into your empty puzzle place, even when there is an ill fit.
(That said, it was nearly 6 years ago that I met my current partner on OKcupid.)

Victoria said...

I'll try to do that Jason... although I'm not so sure about being so sure anymore :/

Elliott, thank you for the update on your Mom, I was thinking about you today and realized I had no way to check in. Sending good healing energy her way and hugs your way. (And thanks for the kind words)

That's a great way to talk about the strange experience of online, Y :)

kandijay said...

I met a guy online, and we have been corresponding -- he is really cute and really nice, but I don't feel like we are connecting. It doesn't help that he doesn't speak English super well. I find myself in this situation often. I'm trying to make it work, but... why?

Victoria said...

That why question is a hard one...*hugs*