Monday 9 September 2024

Stress Dream

I have a "stress dream" (a dream that is really stressful but not quite scary like a nightmare) that has started to repeat, which I always feel like is something I should pay attention to, so here I am.

When I was a kid, I had a nightmare that repeated over and over and I finally stopped having that dream but recognizing *in* the dream that it was happening and doing things in the dream to make it stop (I "killed" the bad guys that were chasing me.)

This dream, this is not the first time I've had it but I'm not sure how many times I have had it, three?  Five?  Not a large number I don't think... less than ten.

My family and I lived in England for a year when I was in around grade 7 or so in a house exchange. (So they lived in our house and did my Dad's job while we lived in theirs and my Dad did their Dad's job kind of thing.)

In this dream, I'm having to pack for a "year in England" but like we're leaving tomorrow.

So the packing feels VERY frenzied and stressful and last minute and I'm trying to remember things while being pretty sure I'm going to forget something important.

In this particular version of this dream last night there was an added realization that I might have money issues as I'm now an adult and wouldn't be working (this time the adult had me "grown up"... go figure) and then I wondered if I could do online banking and maybe that would be ok.  Oh and I realized that texting was a thing now and so I could still "talk" to my friends, time zones in consideration....

But the packing is super stressful.  I was trying to think about different seasons and temperatures but also comfort and need.  And I was running out of space in my duffle bag.  I was trying to wake up from the dream and remembered that I actually have a decent sized suitcase and surely I'd be allowed to take two bags on the airplane as it is a year long stay after all, right?

I woke myself up out of the dream cuz it's just no fun to be asleep and feeling that stressed and anxious.  And once I'd gotten out of bed, I realized I have no recollection of how packing went for that trip.  I'm certain my parents did it and I know we bought things there (like there was a school uniform I had to wear so we would have purchased that there.) so I really have no idea how many clothes/things I/we took over, you know? 

I'm not sure what stresses this dream is trying to replicate/sort out for me, but the main stress seems to be the last minute overwhelm and feeling like I'm going to miss important things and regret that later?

So if I try to beat this dream like I did the one in my childhood, maybe I can ask if we can catch a flight a bit later or something?  Like delay the departure so I'm not "in a rush"?

Yeah, I don't know, I just guess I'm pretty darn stressed right now for this dream to show up... again!

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