What's been rattling around in my brain, however, is more the idea that maybe I missed out on guys I shouldn't have.
And I know, I know, what's meant to be will be and who's meant to be in my life will be and I wouldn't be who I was without my past experiences, I know all that, but what's on my mind here is that I maybe missed out on dating, being with, maybe even marrying good guys because I convinced or told myself that they weren't something or other.
You'll maybe say it's being picky, and maybe it is, what do I know, but I think now, lately, I've been regretting the guys I didn't date because I told myself there wasn't "something" right about them, or there wasn't a something I wanted.
When I think back, there have been really genuinely nice guys I haven't dated because they already had a child and I'd, at the time, told myself I wouldn't date someone with a child. (I'm still unsure about this one, in fact, but have dated a couple of guys with kids. Just didn't get to a point where I met the kids) There were guys who didn't have a certain look to them, or maybe didn't attract me in a certain way. Guys I didn't click with instantly or guys who weren't, I don't know how to put it other than "something" enough. Something.
And is it ok to keep looking for those guys who have that "something"? Or am I just keeping other good guys at a distance because it's easier that way, less scary that way? I don't know any more.
Not that, at this point, it really matters.
But, still. Have I missed out on guys because of something that I can't even define? Am I making mistakes and losing out?
And how am I ever supposed to know?
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When 'it' happens ... you'll know. I met my husband and- even tho; we were both married to other people at the time- I really did KNOW that HE'S the "ONE". His wife left him (not related to me) and I left my 1st husb (because of alcohol abuse and girls AND the fact I had met W). W didn't CAUSE my divorce, he gave me the strength to survive it.
You Will Know.
Don't forget the bald headed old guys... :P
Sigh...I guess we will never know-I sometimes question myself about this same exact subject. Especially lately, since I just turned 41 and am still single (not to scare the crap out of you or anything, haha, im sure we'll both find our very own The One someday. But I digress).
There is one man in particular that I really regret not pursuing-but I was 21 and he was 29 and wanted to get married...totally freaked me out and I ran far away. At the time I knew it wasn't right, and I guess now that's what I should hold on to-that feeling that I "knew" he wasn't the right one. But...was I just being super picky? I've turned down two pretty darn great marriage proposals in my life, what if there are no others? Sigh...
I do hope it happens, Kas, although I've thought I'd found the right guy before and, well, wasn't right. So I do hope it happens and I know :)
Will do Bruce :)
It is hard when you question yourself Doitagain. Especially when the question is like yours. *hugs*
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